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Welcome to Stepping Into Transition, the newsletter
designed to help you navigate your way through the
challenges of change into an authentic and empowered
|The Difference Between Intuition And Assumption|
| ||On the surface both intuition and assumptions deal
with the unknown. Whenever you make an assumption
or intuition, you are operating without the evidence of
hard facts or data to support your opinions or
decisions. That is where the similarity ends. These
two approaches are worlds apart and knowing the
differences can help you in finding more joy in your
life while reducing your exposure to negativity and
We make assumptions when we try to force an answer
to something we are unsure about. For example, we
may want to know why a person is acting a certain
way, and draw an assumption to find an answer.
Making that assumption ends the search for an answer,
offers the relief we want, and we form a perspective
or view around that assumption.
The problem is that assumptions are often unfair
assessments of people and/or situations. We can
make judgments and build resentments against
ourselves and others all based on our need to find an
answer. All this however comes from a lack of trust,
and is strained, forced and ultimately disempowering.
The need to make an assumption can be checked very
simply by asking questions and getting clarification
about the truth of a matter. Don Miguel Ruiz in his
wonderful book, The Four Agreements expands on the
concept that assumptions are self limiting and rob us
Intuition unlike assumptions is based on trust. Trusting
your intuition is surrendering to an inner knowing
that is not necessarily based on logic or thinking. It
often comes to you in the form of a feeling, sensation
or image. Intuition is not emotionally charged or full of
urgency. Rather intuition is effortless and feels as
though you are divinely guided to find what is right and
true. As we learn to trust our intuition, we tend to
make better decisions, and expand our capacity to
serve both ourselves and others.
|Tools To Help You Know The Difference|
| ||Listen To Your Body|
To tell whether your decision is intuitive or based on
an assumption, notice the internal signals that your
body sends you. An assumption carries a need for
resolution. It has a forced, worried or strained feeling
to it while an intuitive response feels relaxed and
So look at your breathing. Is it effortless or strained?
Are your muscles relaxed or tense? On a general level,
Do you feel more open or more shut down in your
body? Start paying attention because your body is a
great source of wisdom to let you know whether what
you are doing is assuming or intuitive.
The key to accessing intuition and the avoidance of
assumption making is the willingness to relax and
wait. Don't give in to the urge to react and sum up a
situation, making it likely that you will make an
assumption. Allow right action to emerge from a state
of relaxation, trust and flow.
|This Month's Quote And Recommended Reading|
"If you relax, you accept; acceptance of existence is
the only way to relax."
Blink by Malcolm Gladwell is a book about how we
often think without thinking and make important and
complex decisions in the blink of an eye. The author
contends that great decision makers aren't those who
spend the most time deliberating or processing the
most information. He gives stories and examples from
business to popular culture. An interesting and
I hope you enjoyed this edition of Stepping Into
Transition. Look out for the next issue, "Seeing
Vulnerability As Strength." Until next time....Phil