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Welcome to Stepping Into Transition, the newsletter
designed to help you navigate your way through the
challenges of change into an authentic and empowered
| ||Being vulnerable is difficult for many people. It can
conjure up intense feelings such as fear of being
judged, loss of control and weakness. When we want
to project a certain image to the world, we may try to
avoid vulnerability. It is as though being vulnerable
will leave us feeling alone and abandoned because we
will not be accepted for who we really are.|
My beliefs and my work as a coach show me that
vulnerability is the key to feeling connected,
purposeful and thriving. At the moment that we feel
vulnerable, it presents us with a choice. The choice is
one between acting from the ego or acting from your
authentic self. While the ego wants separateness,
control and predictability, the authentic self wants
love, connection and compassion.
| ||I think we have reached a critical point in our culture
where many people are literally burnt out and
exhausted from the demands of the control driven ego.
It is getting harder to hold on to a sense of control
when so many personal and world situations seem
beyond our control.|
Being vulnerable allows us to let go of the struggle for
control. It allows us the freedom to enter into
relationships where truth and authenticity are valued,
where flaws and strengths can all be seen, and where
a shared connection with others can serve to
empower us. Vulnerability is the place where true
community building can occur.
If we can understand that vulnerability is actually a
positive, life affirming emotion that can lead to
empowerment and connection, then perhaps we can
learn to overcome our resistance to it. However, it
means getting out of our own way and questioning
Professional coaching is a powerful process to get you
to move past your comfort zones, to examine new
perspectives, and to take new actions. If you are
curious about how coaching can assist you in your life
or in your business, please contact me for a 30 minute
complimentary consultation at 919-621-1578 or e-mail
In the mean time, here are some questions
for you to consider that should help you examine your
own perspectives on vulnerability.
|Questions To Consider|
| ||1. What is it costing me to avoid uncomfortable issues?|
2. Where have I been unwilling to risk?
3. Where do I hold myself back?
4. In what ways will facing my vulnerability give me
5. In what ways will facing my vulnerability bring me
connection to others?
6. In what ways will facing my vulnerability bring me
peace of mind?
|This Month's Quote And Recommended Resource|
"There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can
be no community without vulnerability; there can be
no peace, and ultimately no life, without community."
-M. Scott Peck
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I hope you enjoyed this issue of Stepping Into
Transition. Until next time. . .Phil