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Stepping Into Transition
   June 2005  

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Anakin's Dilemma-A Choice Based On Fear

What Motivates Your Choices, Fear Or Trust?

Managing Your Fears

This Month's Quote

Published by Philip Okrend, CPCC, Certified Personal And Professional Coach

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   Dear Readers,

Welcome to Stepping Into Transition, the newsletter designed to help you navigate your way through the challenges of change into an authentic and empowered life.

  • Anakin's Dilemma-A Choice Based On Fear
  •   In the latest and final Star Wars saga, Anakin Skywalker makes the choice to surrender to the dark side of the force, thus making his transformation complete into the evil Darth Vader. This choice is motivated by Anakin's fearful premonition that his pregnant wife Padme will die in childbirth. We watch as the tormented Anakin succumbs to the influence of Chancellor Palpatine who suggests that it might be possible to save Padme using the dark side of the force.

    Anakin's choice to compromise all of his other principles in order to save his wife is both tragic and understandably human. How many of us have made wrong choices out of the fear of losing a relationship or not being popular or missing out on some exciting experience. We then experience a negative consequence because we compromised what we knew was right, perhaps our values, in favor of a misperceived fear that clouds our better judgment.

    In Anakin's case his fear of losing Padme becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because he is driven and consumed by his fear and all his subsequent destructive actions are rooted in fear. In the process of surrendering to his fears and eventually to the dark side of the force, Anakin loses his compassion, his trust, and his heartfelt connection to others.

  • What Motivates Your Choices, Fear Or Trust?
  •   The contrast of decisions motivated by fear are decisions that take us towards a positive vision. If a choice is made from an internal belief in oneself, appreciation for the present and trust in the future, the driving motivation can be fulfillment or satisfaction.

    How can you tell the difference in what motivates your choices? If you are anxious, striving and attached to a future event, you can bet there is fear involved somewhere while if you are calm, trusting and focused on things working out, that choice is most likely coming from positive belief.

  • Managing Your Fears
  •   Even with the best of intentions, fear is something that can creep in on all of us. However, we can manage our fears, if we step back and really look at what's driving us. Here are some questions for you to consider while making choices in your business and in your life.

    Where do you focus your thoughts?

    Are your choices based on fear?

    Are your choices based on belief in yourself?

    I offer a 30 minute complimentary session for you to learn how coaching can help you to get where you want to go including managing and recognizing any fears(I call them Gremlins) that may be limiting you.

    Please call me at 919-621-1578 or e mail me at to sign up for your free coaching session.

  • This Month's Quote
  •   "We tell lies when we are afraid, afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger."


    I hope you enjoyed this month's issue of Stepping Into Transition and May The Force Be With You. Until next time. . .Phil

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