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Welcome to Stepping Into Transition, the monthly
newsletter designed to help you navigate
your way through the challenges of change into an
authentic and empowered life.
|The One Perspective Trap|
| ||Moving towards the change you really want in your life
ultimately comes down to the power of choice. You can
either choose from your values and vision or you can
choose from your circumstances. Which do you think is
the more empowering and authentic way to choose?
Although you may say, "that's easy, values and
vision", just look around and you see that people are not
always choosing this way.|
For example, let's take a look at a situation
where someone has recently become unemployed and
judges this to be demeaning for them. This
person then chooses to take a job offer that they are
not thrilled with and gives up on exploring other
possibilities of making a living. As this person chooses
from the perspective of "unemployment is demeaning"
and takes the job offer they may find themselves
unsatisfied, bored and stagnant a few months down the
road. By choosing from and remaining fixed in one
perspective they have closed themselves off from other
perspectives with other options that may be more
harmonious with their values and vision.
|Creating Perspectives That Empower You|
| ||If you recognize that you are stuck in one way of seeing
or doing things that is not bringing you closer to what
you really want in your life, try identifying different
For example, our unemployed person could have
brainstormed other perspectives to view their situation,
ones that have more life, energy and don't seem as
desperate. They could have chosen the perspective of
"unemployment means I can start a business or free
lance career" or "unemployment means I'm free, available
to possibility" or "unemployment means I can focus on my
health" or "unemployment means I can pursue a new
degree" or "unemployment means I can be available to
my children", etc.
Why not try this for yourself. What other perspectives
can you come up with to address a challenge or
important decision that you want to make? It doesn't
initially matter what your alternative perspectives are.
You don't need to be attached to them as you make
them up. Simply playing with perspectives allows for a
climate of movement and possibility to occur.
Of course change doesn't happen without actually
choosing,committing to a plan and taking action. So it is
important to spend time really getting inside the different
perspectives and asking yourself "What would your world
be like if you made a choice from the new perspective?"
and "How energized would you be by choosing from this
new perspective?" and "Is this choice in harmony with my
sense of fulfillment and values?"
Expanding your range of possible choices through playing
with perspectives is a great way to move out of being
"stuck" and to determining what is really most fulfilling to
you. Practice makes perfect, so I encourage you to
work with perspectives when facing an important
decision so that you can be sure that your choice was
not based on the circumstances of your life but rather
from your most cherished values.
|This Month's Quote And Recommended Reading|
| ||Quote For August|
"Life is a process of becoming a combination of states we
have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish
to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of
A classic, Stephen Covey's "The 7 Habits Of Highly
Effective People" is a book I highly recommend for those
seeking effective principles to guide them through the
challenges of personal and professional change.
Look out for September's issue of "Stepping Into
Transition" on "Using Metaphors To Move You Forward."
Until then. . . Phil