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Welcome to Stepping Into Transition, the monthly
newsletter designed to help you navigate
your way through the challenges of change into an
authentic and empowered life.
|Expectations-How They Can Trip You Up|
| ||Let's say, you're at a point in your journey through
change where you've figured out what you need to do
next. You're investing time, making plans, setting goals
and taking action to achieve a desired outcome. And
suddenly, things go wrong, nothing goes according to
plan and you are not getting the results you wanted.
You feel frustrated and disappointed.|
When you find yourself experiencing the feelings of
disappointment or even anger or resentment due to
unfulfilled expectations, it is because you are attached
to an outcome, a future event. When you allow these
feelings to linger, you will find that your energy becomes
depleted, and will interfere with your ability to recognize
other opportunities that can move you forward towards
|Detach Yourself From The Results|
| ||In order to move ahead with confidence and
determination, it is important to understand that
setbacks and unexpected events are simply part of the
process of putting plans into motion. Everything may not
happen in the exact way you want it to, and you can
simply choose to view these things as bumps in the
road instead of disasters that undermine you.|
Keep an optimistic attitude allowing each
step of the process to unfold while keeping your ultimate
vision in mind. Also know that whenever an unexpected
event comes up, you can handle it. It may not be what
you wanted but you can see the event as a learning tool
which will make you more adaptable, resilient and
stronger. By detaching from the results, you won't
create any unnecessary drama that can hold you back
from achieving what you want.
So practice the following four steps as you set out on a
course of action : 1.Set your intention. 2. Communicate
your intention clearly when other people are involved.
3.Take inspired and committed action. 4. Detach from
|Tips To Move You Forward|
| ||If you are experiencing frustration,
disappointment or pain from unfulfilled expectations,
resolve to do the following:|
*Focus on what is working right now. Recognize the
perfection of the moment and notice the abundance that
is already in your life including the unique gifts and
talents that you possess.
*Acknowledge yourself for committing to live in alignment
with your values and for the effort you are making to
make positive changes.
*Don't blame anyone or anything for a situation that is
not going the way you expect.
*Don't view setbacks as defeat, failure or a reason to
give up. Have faith that if something does not work out
the way you want, it means that something better is
waiting for you.
*Stay open and responsive to new options and
perspectives. Also practice being flexible and patient
and you will cultivate creative solutions to your
|This Month's Quote And Recommended Reading|
| ||Quote For April|
"Notice the natural order of things. Work with it rather
than agianst it for to try to change what is so will only
set up resistance."
- Lao Tzu
If you enjoyed this month's topic, "The Power Of Now"
by Eckhart Tolle is a must read. This book suggests that
we can find our way out of psychological pain by
surrendering to the Now, the present moment. Now is
the place where we find joy and are able to embrace our
Look out for May's issue of Stepping Into Transition
on "The Power Of Committment".
Until then. . . . Phil